How to Talk With Your Homosexual Friend

Posted by Anonymous , 9/4/2007 Tags:TalkWithHomosexualFriend
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How to Talk With Your Homosexual Friend

Introduction

Thinking of the right thing to say is tricky for a lot of people, whether at parties or during one-on-one conversations. That can be especially true if you are trying to talk with a homosexual friend who has recently come out. Here are a few things you can try to make the conversation go more smoothly.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderate

Steps

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Step One

Keep in mind that your homosexual friend is the same person that he or she was before coming out.
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Step Two

Be aware of how you are feeling. If the conversation is taking place soon after your friend has come out to you, you may still be surprised, uncomfortable, curious or even angry.
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Step Three

Carry on an honest conversation. If you have questions, ask them.
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Step Four

Be respectful. Regardless of what you have been raised to believe from your church or your community, your homosexual friend is still a person who deserves to be able to live an honest life.
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Step Five

Be yourself. Your homosexual friend knows you, and will probably be able to see through attempts you make to hide what you're really thinking and feeling.

Overall Tips & Warnings

  • Consider your own needs, but don't put your needs above the other person's.
  • Keep in mind that someone who is homosexual is looking for the same things from a friend that you are: acceptance, support, understanding, acknowledgment and reassurance.
  • If you ask questions, keep an open mind when your homosexual friend answers them.
  • Don't be judgmental. A conversation should put you on equal footing and not be one-sided.
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